How much to give up?

A million dollar question that most prospective brides and grooms ask today. How much should I give up? How much to compromise? What all to let go?

The interesting thing is that in a situation like this where there are too many factors that can affect a decision and it is probably one of the most important decision in your life to find a life partner it is indeed a million dollar question. one really needs to do more retrospect on this question and try and find the answer within. What is more important to that prospective bride or groom. One needs to ask the same question again and gain to find the answers. Its more like what works vs getting a right answer in a situation like this.

Is looks more important or nature?

Is money more important or education?

Is height more important or weight?


It is purely a personal decision and no one but your self can help you on this. As deciding on a life partner comprises of complex parameters to make a choice from, one needs to take a call and prioritize. But again this can only be done on a case to case basis. There is no fix template that can tell you what is right and what is wrong. Hence as mentioned earlier its more like what works and what doesn’t. Some may prefer x and another may prefer y. its ok. its fine to have that choice, but you need to make a choice and then feel happy about. Always remember the grass is always green on the other side, so its important to count your blessing daily and cherish and appreciate what you have and can have rather than endlessly waiting for something and someone unknown.


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Is Arrainge Marriage about selling yourself?

Times have gotten so busy that people have very little time to find a life partner. Is it that it is not a priority or that people have left it to fate. The reality seems different many a times. Prospective brides and grooms are now talking about selling oneself in a meeting. With so many expectations and many of them being exceptionally high today’s generation boys and girls believe that one needs to sell oneself if they want to get married. “You need to impress your partner, so you need to be at your best” says a prospective bride. Many a times you need to even go out of the way to impress. Instances are increasing where boys and/ or girls often say yes to things they don’t really want to. They want to now portray an image of the all rounder who can play multiple roles for eg “ bahu, beti, girl friend, wife, maa.”
If one liked a person and fails to create a positive impression which usually happens in the first meeting and in many cases in the first ten minutes of that meeting they loose the opportunity to get married. And the long and tedious process of finding a life partner continues again. Many a time rejections also lead to dejection and in many cases people also get into depression if after many prospects the opposite partner say no. so it almost gets imperative to sell your self as the expectations in these kind of matches is very different. One cannot be oneself in a meeting as many a times people get very judgmental about petty issues and hence can lead to creating a bad impression and over a long term even a bad reputation.

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Who will pay the bill?

A matrimonial company once told its client that they will even help them fix meetings with prospective brides and grooms. As the entire logistics of fixing a meeting is a painful one. The fees they charged was Rs. 500 for registration and Rs. 5000 if one finds a life partner through them. Clients were delighted with this scheme as it seemed very promising. All the hardwork to be done by the company right from showing appropriate matches, to follow up to kundli matching to even fixing a meeting at a suitable time and place.
One client one day suddenly calls the office and enquires casually, we have finished meeting the prospective groom at this five star hotel but were wondering who will clear the bill here? And then goes on to say that my daughter said that it has to be us but I thought no harm in checking since your company said that “we will fix the meeting for you”. company employee politely tells the gentleman that the bill and all such dues need to be settled by the client themselves only, on which client agreed and said no problem. The employee then asked if you don’t mind sir just out of curiosity how much is the bill amount, on which the client replied laughing out loud only Rs. 2800!!

Employee puts the phone and burts out laughing and wondering the kind of funny expectations people have. That saying so true, you give him an inch and he takes an ell!!

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Next is what?

Next is what?

Told all my friends and family that I am single and ready to mingle. But no one cares too much any more. No one knows me well enough to find a right match. Registered with various marriage bureaus but not helping too much. Registered with various online matrimonial website but the same issues. Am I really asking for too much? Isn’t there anyone who will click with me? Will I ever find the perfect match? So many questions run my mind everytime I think of finding my life partner. Its become a long tiring journey now. Gave my ad in a newspaper, trying the speed dating and get together formats.

Next is what now??

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